You must prioritize your own self and your own life and learn to enjoy and value your own company. Then and only then will you see through the self-absorbed time-wasters like Mr. Hurricane Man who expect the world to entertain them.

The unspoken subtext to your excellent essay is that there are worse things than not being in a relationship. Like being in a bad relationship. Or being in a bad marriage. Or losing track of your actual friends. All 3 of those outcomes are likely when you make dating the center of your existence instead of building a real life for yourself.