You are quite right, David. I would like to have said more about where the problem starts and how it develops, but that will take more research and another article at least as long as this one.

Yes, young women do go out with jerks and assholes, often to their own lasting regret, and turn their noses up at nice-but-homely guys who become embittered and give up on love. Old story we've all heard. But most of us know where the story goes from there, after nice guy wises up and grows up.