What we unconsciously crave is the feeling of familiarity, the ease of interacting that comes of having learned the same scripts. That's what we mistake for compatibility.

But when we keep having relationships turn out badly, the last thing we need is another partner who is going to play those same scenes with us. We need to write new scripts, and that's never easy.

A relationship with the potential to go in a new direction will start off feeling awkward. It will feel like it's not working, since you are trying to figure out what to say and do. But that's what you have to do, to step away from the comfort zone into a better future.

Retired psychologist, wordsmith, teacher, MFA candidate. Buy me coffee: ko-fi.com/edrobson. ecrobson@gmail.com

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