Well reasoned, well presented, and extremely thought-provoking. I have tended to think there was a place for masculinity in human culture, but now that you explain it, I can think of no beneficial aspect of it that should not equally belong to good (moral) women. I certainly have no patience for men pretending greater rationality, as I explained in a recent article.

I agree completely with your basic premise, that the problem--one of the core problems with American culture as presently constituted--is that (a) nearly every aspect of morality is dissociated from masculinity, and (b) men are in charge of nearly everything. Every bit of dystopic literature involves society having taken the masculine choice at every turning point.

One problem remains to be addressed, though: biology. Women being turned on by manly muscles is instinctive, just like men being turned on by womanly figures. We can teach children to look beyond the physical, and to reject stereotypically gender-defined behavior patterns, but our limbic systems can only be pushed so far.