Well, consent goes both ways, you know. And pressure is no more appropriate from horny women than from horny men.

A reasonably mature partner (trust me — you don’t want the other kind) will find you more interesting, not less, when you say, “I don’t think we know each other well enough yet to take things to another level. Let’s be sure we work as friends before we get too physical.” Or something to that effect.

The French (at least in generations past) used to go on group dates, which meant less pressure on potential couples and more chances to meet more potential friends.

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