We all want company, love, and sex, though not necessarily in that order. Part of what makes dating such a minefield is that we have to guess the other's priorities.

Me, I want to make a friend, and only then consider whether more is possible. How can I know if I've found someone I can love before we've spent some time together? But I guess I'm out of touch with how it's done these days.

Another excellent essay. Your articles are always worth reading.

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