This insight would be an excellent jumping-off point for an essay of your own. Send it to Pollinate; I'll bet Yael Wolf will publish it. (Tell her I sent you.) She writes a lot about such matters. Everyone should follow her.

You are quite right, rational vs emotional is a false dichotomy, as is masculine vs feminine. Stoicism, however, is not about suppressing emotion, but only about not letting feelings control one's actions and choices. Stoicism is embodied in the famous "serenity" prayer.