The patriarchy is clearly thriving, abetted by religious women determined to enforce gender role expectations on each other. We can only hope these oppressed women of principle will find communities of support, even if only online.

One of the better options--one that needs to be better publicized, especially in the South--is the Unitarian Universalist Church. My UU fellowship in Winston-Salem is about 30% atheist, with a somewhat higher percentage identifying as secular humanist, and smaller numbers of religious humanist, Christian, pagan, and other religion (Jewish, Hindu, Buddhist) or just None of Thee Above.

UUs tend to be well educated, politically liberal, strongly feminist, welcoming of queer and other-gendered folk, and active in social justice efforts. And a great many of us have experienced rejection and/or outright abuse by theist families and communities.