The intrepid traveler assesses risks, calculates their odds, keeps their wits about them, and does what they can to learn the territory. The intrepid traveler is flexible and resourceful and knows what they can do without.

Brenda tries to play it safe by avoiding risks as much as possible. You correctly point out that real safety is illusory, and you balance the risks involved in going where you want against the experience you stand to gain by going there.

The patriarchy wants to keep women cowed and in their place. Its favorite tactic is the constant threat of sexualized violence. You call its bluff by pointing out that most men are not rapists, and that the ones who are, are just as likely to be lurking at home as abroad.