Thank you for your comment. I hadn’t thought of it exactly that way, but you’re absolutely right.

Part of what makes the moment of consent so thrilling for a man is that we figure the woman has many other options (including “I think I’d rather go home and wash my hair tonight”), but she has chosen to be with you and share her body.

But does the woman get that same affirming thrill? If she believes anybody with a penis wants to stick it in as many female bodies as he can, does it really make her feel like someone special that he’s interested in her?

A level playing field — in conjunction with increased attention to the pre-sexual connection — would IMO make every sexual connection more exciting and more satisfying.

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