Thank you, Cameryn, for this eloquent and insightful response. You have delved deeper into the root causes of the issues that I only skimmed. I hope you will turn these insights into an article.
I hope it’s clear I wasn’t meaning to demonize women, even the one I created for my example, who was playing out the script she had been taught. The culprit is the patriarchal system that pushes us to play these roles and all too often hurt each other without intending or even knowing we are doing so.