Such an attitude toward sex as "Ari" demonstrated is just sad to me. To be in the company of another human being, a miraculous mystery to be explored, and be aware of her only as a potential scratcher of your sexual itch. No appreciation of pleasant company and great conversation, even potential lasting friendship.

Would such a man be happiest if the getting-acquainted stages could be dispensed with altogether? Just meet already naked, pass an hour in bed together, and then go your separate ways?

Personally, although I appreciate feminine beauty as much as any man, what makes me want to kiss and touch is not her physical characteristics nearly so much as her qualities as a person. Is she interesting, intelligent, friendly, curious, kind, good-humored, and turned on by life? And the quality of the connection we are able to create together.