So much truth here--and presented with admirable wit. I sincerely salute you.

That said, however, I will also say, it doesn't have to be this way. You are describing the complicated sexual efforts of the couple who attempt to satisfy each other without first establishing the mental and emotional connection that will guarantee fulfillment of their quest. In other words, sex between relative strangers.

If your partner for the night is just another body, one whose mind is still a mystery to you, then yes, the male is at a distinct disadvantage, since female sexual sensitivity and response is wondrously complex.

But for partners who have taken the time to achieve true nudity together before disrobing, there is no such disadvantage, because we ALL are wondrously complex, and that complexity is pure joy to explore.