Now that traditional marriage is no longer the only option for adults who want to live in intimate relationships, I think a new experiment is beginning, an experiment that may in time reveal the truth of our basic nature.

The trouble is, although we have more options now, not everyone is equally free to choose what kind of relationships they want. Patriarchal power structures still protect marriage by forcing women to depend on men for provenance and protection.

If and when the power differential disappears, and everyone can love and bond in whatever way seems right to them without risking life and livelihood, then we shall see if humankind is more like swans than bonobos.

Retired psychologist, wordsmith, teacher, MFA candidate. Buy me coffee:

Get the Medium app

A button that says 'Download on the App Store', and if clicked it will lead you to the iOS App store
A button that says 'Get it on, Google Play', and if clicked it will lead you to the Google Play store