Much to ponder here. I found myself wondering if any of my comments to the female writers I admire on Medium might sound this way or actually be this way. I don't think so, as I avoid personal remarks or compliments other than about the writing itself, and I don't seek private conversations. But I'll still be extra vigilant after reading this, cuz I don't want to be a creep.
I don't know from woke. I've called myself a feminist since I first knew what that term meant, back in the days of Steinem and Friedan. I always knew it was about freeing all of us from dead-end gender expectation traps.
I gotta say, though, it ain't easy being male today, especially when you're also white, American, and all the rest of what now stinks of privilege and cluelessness. People who look like me just have an awful lot to answer for.