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I learned to be sexually indifferent after years of having my desire for sex used against me (to manipulate and punish) in a verbally and emotionally abusive relationship it would take me more years to escape. It broke her heart to find I didn't want her anymore, but once the trust is gone, what can you do?

Desire is one of the sweetest gifts we can offer one another. It need not always be reciprocated (because honesty also is a gift), but no one should be shamed for it.

And the cultural and religious traditions that shame or negate female sexuality need to be relegated to museums of superstition as object lessons, lest we all forget how stupid we can be.

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