Love your style. Don't know why you tagged it "humor"--almost skipped a good read, thinking it would just be joking about something important.

My 25-year marriage with a Black woman touched on all the points you list here. Much learning was involved, and many deep discussions. We met as classmates in a PhD program in clinical psychology, so we had a shared vocabulary for discussing what we observed in ourselves and each other as we moved through this racist world.

One thing I never did learn in all that time: why the hell does Dixie Peach Pomade smell like coconut?