Lot to ponder here, Yael. Beautifully expressed, as always, but it made me wonder if something has changed in the generations I've lived through, something in the sexual consciousness of cisgendered males.
Entitlement is surely part of the male experience, but it's mostly invisible to us until it's pointed out. And the entitlement was never sexual, not for anybody I knew. Entitled to screw around, I guess I can see that, and the double standard around sexual experience. But what went with that was an expectation of voracious and indiscriminate lust, and readiness to perform at any time.
Real freedom of sexual expression and deep fulfillment, to my thinking, comes with self-acceptance and the ability to form deep connections. And those, ironically, are the areas where men (generalizing, obviously) lag far behind.