Kathryn Schultz says when we change our minds, we tell ourselves we never did believe what we in fact believed before. We can't tolerate the tension of inconsistency, no matter that it is our natural state as living and changing beings.
It's true for all of us, but men especially, since we lack the emotional maturity and insight to see ourselves as processes and accept our unreliability.
It isn't fair that women must so often be the adults, and at the very time when you're suffering the most.