It seems to me, the first point is the most important one, the one from which all the rest follow. Becoming aware of white privilege that sticks to you whether you want it or not. Becoming aware that racism is more than just prejudice, but a system by which power is kept in White hands and out of nonwhite ones. Learning t he history of oppression and how it has resisted every effort at reform.

Once one has absorbed these truths--not that the process is every finished, of course--antiracist choices will start to be the first option that comes to mind. Your children and your friends will learn from your example without your having to preach it in words.