It can go either way, of course, who dominates and who submits. And with a longtime couple who know each other's bodies well, the balance may cease to be a thing at all.

I love to guide my lover's consciousness through the way I tongue her passion flower. It doesn't feel like domination, and I'll make adjustments in response to her verbal or nonverbal feedback, but I know I'm in control and take delight in the power to give her pleasure. And of course, I'm happy when she takes control.

Great writing.