I tried Match a few years back, long before I ever had a smartphone. Even that was pretty dehumanizing. It seemed like a good idea, given how hard it was to meet folks, but it never really worked for me.
As for Tinder, I know my son hooks up that way, but something about it just repels me. I think you've put your finger on the problem.
Or the problems. Apparently it's worse than I suspected. Thanks for educating me.
IMO, it's not just dating apps that are the problem, but the whole idea of dating without first becoming friends. I just turned in an article to PSILY on that topic. I'd be interested to hear what you think.