I too, Mysterious, could happily spend hours pleasuring a lover without seeking reciprocation, but for two reasons, neither of which is on your list.

One, a woman's body is to me one of the marvels of existence, and her yoni in particular is endlessly fascinating. To fill my senses with her femininity is a gourmet dinner, fine wine, and an art museum rolled into one. Add to that the music of her ecstasy--who could ask for more?

And two, there is enormous gratification in the power to give pleasure, especially to someone I love. There's nothing selfless or sacrificial about the experience. I take pride in my oral and manual skills, and in the ability to sense her pleasure rising, hold her near the peak, and draw her climax out for minutes at a time. What could be more satisfying than to rock a lovely person's world?

In my book, it is not self-denial to save my own climax for another day. I am pleasuring my lover, and I don't want her waiting her turn or saving her strength, but only receiving the gift I'm giving her.

I don't know how paying for it changes the dynamics, but I know I'm not the only man who feels this way about cunnilingus. It seems to me, sex is just as much about the giving as the getting, and the pleasure I can offer to someone deserving of that gift is not so different from the joy of intercourse, fellatio, or any other way we play together.

Retired psychologist, wordsmith, teacher, MFA candidate. Buy me coffee: ko-fi.com/edrobson. ecrobson@gmail.com

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