I think you're onto something important here, Alyssa. I've been struggling to compose an article on what a "culture of consent" would look like, and I think you've laid out several of the major points.

As other commenters are saying, we're a long way from there now. I still believe the average man is not a predator, but boys are not being socialized very effectively into the kind of consent-oriented attitudes that would make sexuality a safe playground for young people to explore together.