I strongly suspect marriage isn't a good choice for most people, male or female or other, at least not as currently defined. Men aren't socialized to suppress their selfish or narcissistic tendencies--or to value female time and labor--so they easily fall into exploitative patterns and give up on the partnership when it requires more sacrifice than they can tolerate.

Women are often forced into matrimony by economic pressures, held in a dependent situation by the need to provide for children in a society that doesn't pay them what their work is worth, and rendered destitute when their husbands get bored and dump them. I hope my daughter never goes there.

I'd love to see our culture become more open to other models of bonding and family life, especially group marriages, where there are enough adults (of different ages) in the mix to share the many burdens of homemaking and childrearing while providing also for the emotional needs of all.

Retired psychologist, wordsmith, teacher, MFA candidate. Buy me coffee: ko-fi.com/edrobson. ecrobson@gmail.com

Retired psychologist, wordsmith, teacher, MFA candidate. Buy me coffee: ko-fi.com/edrobson. ecrobson@gmail.com