I am so sorry to know that this happened to you, Riley, especially because I know how many people will be unable to understand why it would be traumatic. Forced sex is a violent crime, and no one has the right to make a joke of it.
You say it well: “prisoners of a most rigid binary expectancy.” To my thinking, that expectancy has imprisoned all of us, and only an enlightened feminism can release us.
Most women, including the one I created for this article, are not predators by nature or intention. But if they believe the myth they have been taught about men always wanting sex, they are likely to misinterpret any resistance they encounter, not recognizing it as an actual choice.