Congratulations to you, Rachel, for the shackles you have broken as well as for the rest of your recent accomplishments.

And it sounds like, for you, celibacy truly was essential to your burst of productivity. Essential to your liberation and reclaiming your vitality. I'm glad you found the wisdom to walk the path of self-healing.

My experience is different, but not completely different. I appreciate the benefits of solitude, including reduced distractions, but healthy love and loving touch inspire me. Still, I also had to save myself from a toxic partner and seek healing in extended time alone.

Sex--like anger, wine, and comfort--can be powerful and life-affirming servants, but as masters will bring little but regret.

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