As you know, I favor slowing way down, building actual friendship before deciding to explore romance. And I think that can be done with classic dinner-and-a-show type dates, mixed in with group activities (because you never know who someone is until you meet their friends).

My 30-yo son tells me there's yet another problem in the hookup culture: dishonesty. Not just deceptive pictures and bio details, but pranking someone's plans. He drove 3 hours one night to meet a woman he'd been chatting with a week or more, only to be ghosted when he got there. The ethos for some people seems to be, "We're on for [insert time and place] unless I get a better offer between now and then."

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