Another great essay, possibly your most thought-provoking yet. Wasn't sure at first if I agreed with your position, but your arguments make sense to me. "Incel" is a political position, based on a specific delusional system. And it's definitely dangerous, both to its adherents and to society at large, especially women.

If the incels' basic premise--I want sex but no one will have sex with me--were valid, then it would appy to everyone old enough to feel that urge until they find their first partner. But we call them virgins, not incels, and we (as a culture) expect that most of them will eventually develop the confidence, charisma, and social skills to participate in the adult sexual world.

Two problems with that expectation: One is that a lot of males do not achieve social-sexual maturity, and the patriarchal mindset ensures they never will. As long as they are incapable of seeing women as equals, how can they expect to attract partners? The other problem is that the social arena has become competitive rather than cooperative, and much of it has been replaced by online structures that are cynically mercenary. How are we to find each other anymore?